I asked Paul (not his real name) what he does to unwind when he isn’t working the 80 hours a week that he does. “I don’t watch TV, but I also often don’t know what to do” he confessed, “so I wander the mall.” The really sad part is that his store is in the mall.
To his credit he does frequent his local gym four times a week-a good start.
Work (hopefully) leads to positive tension, which leads to motivation, and results. We want to achieve, so we dedicate our energies to making stuff happen. This is what Robert Fritz coined as “Creative Tension” (http://www.robertfritz.com/). Good for the company-good for us.
Going home to a tension-vacuum, where you have no goals or interests, other than YouTube surfing, Facebook (BTW the average user logs in daily and for 700 minutes/month), or zoning out with TV means nothing gets accomplished and we are missing that drive to motivate us and keep us healthy. Bad use of time-bad for us.
Maybe I’m at the extreme, but I have so many personal goals I am challenged to find the time for them. Whether it’s a construction project, training for a race, writing my blogs, helping my daughters with their homework, playing guitar, or running with my dog, the list is long, fun, and engaging. Good for seeing results-good for me.
Have a gap in your non-work activities?
Start with something simple, like taking a night class at your local college, trying new recipes for dinner, or reading about a favorite subject.
Trust me, it feels good to have a small goal for your home-time and it’s more rewarding than another night on Facebook.
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